There are many cultural, political, ethical, and religious arguments against the viewing of pornography. We could argue whether these views are accurate or outdated; however, there is a completely valid “self-argument.” This “self-argument” takes into account the science-based behavioral account of what happens when we view pornography.
Let’s be honest. No man watches porn simply to watch. Watching sets the scene for sexual gratification through masturbation which then leads to orgasm. All of which last within a 1 minute to 10 minute period. In reality, everything that is happening is completely natural in a physical sense.
So what’s the issue then? Generally speaking, the viewing of porn generally leads to feelings of shame. Especially if one is in a committed relationship. This is where the negative loop begins. 1. View porn. 2. Masturbate. 3. Orgasm. 4. Feelings of shame. Eventually, orgasms will lead to feelings of shame even when they are from committed sex with our significant other. This can lead to issues with erections, sexual performance, and feelings of shame coming out of nowhere.
So how do we break this awful loop? It takes a commitment to yourself to start new habits. This can include removing triggers like phones and computers for a period of 28 days. It can also include individual counseling in a judgement free zone to work on healthy ways to overcome the challenge. The end result should be a happy and functional sex life.